Cesarino
23-06-23, 20:58
I'm a WoC living in the west. As a PoC, and specifically as a WoC I've had awful shitty experiences, about which I won't go into detail in this post. However, when I share my experiences with white people (including people on this forum), they immediately dismiss them. And if I'm talking to white women, I again get casually dismissed. Even their sympathy is tone-deaf.
"Oh racists are everywhere, you got to have thick skin"
"You'll meet more people like these, I'm sorry."
"World is a bad place, you met one more bad person."
How does saying "racists are everywhere, you encountered one" help a PoC, who is sharing their unpleasant and hurtful experiences. This casual tone, inability to sympathize, being dismissive and invalidating, normalizing such experiences, reeks of white privilege.
On this forum, when women share their experiences about sexual harrassment, misogyny, SA, people don't say "Oh misogynists are everywhere, you met one". "Oh there's plenty of assaulters out there, I'm sorry you encountered one" "Oh you have a shitty partner, but men are like that only"
Then why when a WoC shares her experiences, she gets dismissed? As though it's normalized and I should expect more of such shit and that it's my responsibility to have a thick skin. Speaking specifically about white people, I've come to realise a person can be a good feminist but at the same time they can be (and are) blinded by white
"Oh racists are everywhere, you got to have thick skin"
"You'll meet more people like these, I'm sorry."
"World is a bad place, you met one more bad person."
How does saying "racists are everywhere, you encountered one" help a PoC, who is sharing their unpleasant and hurtful experiences. This casual tone, inability to sympathize, being dismissive and invalidating, normalizing such experiences, reeks of white privilege.
On this forum, when women share their experiences about sexual harrassment, misogyny, SA, people don't say "Oh misogynists are everywhere, you met one". "Oh there's plenty of assaulters out there, I'm sorry you encountered one" "Oh you have a shitty partner, but men are like that only"
Then why when a WoC shares her experiences, she gets dismissed? As though it's normalized and I should expect more of such shit and that it's my responsibility to have a thick skin. Speaking specifically about white people, I've come to realise a person can be a good feminist but at the same time they can be (and are) blinded by white