I thought about the Queef sisters a lot when I first started taking pole dancing classes. Every now and then, a man would wander in and immediately master all the harder, upper body skills because they have inherently more upper body muscle mass. And I get pissed off every time America’s Got Talent or whatever features a male pole dancer. Pole dancing came from lady stripping, it’s not a man thing. Men just look like they’re doing gymnastics. It’s graceful and beautiful but SO ARE THE WOMEN.

But once again, the men can’t let us just have this one little thing. They have to come in and dominate and control and then scoff at how hard we have to work to get close to the same strength needed to do whatever trick. I’ve grown to really despise men on pole because it’s just annoying how we can’t even just have one thing to ourselves.

So I feel the same way about allegedly enlightened, lefty leaning men. While the patriarchy hurts everyone and feminism aims to work toward egalitarianism, I still can’t totally trust men to really have our backs. Maybe 5-10% of men are legit allies. The rest range from just sort of moving their mouths to try to say the right words to dismissive to outright hostile. So IDK if I can believe most of them. Trust but verify I guess?